Have you ever been asked what you know now that you wished you had known when you were younger? One of my answers to that question is knowing how to set and manage my intention with powerful phrases. Leveraging positive self-language shifts our mindset to think positively and to expect positive outcomes. That influences our behavior and the energy around us so that others recognize and respond positively to our intention.
People appreciate being appreciated! Whenever you are asking for something — especially if it’s something out of the scope of standard delivery — it’s alway good to start with the words “I’m grateful…” and use their name to make your words even more personal. That lets the other person know that you acknowledge they’re going above and beyond on your account. And because you’ve recognized them by name, they will try even harder to give you exactly what you want. Now that’s powerful!
What are the options?
When you are asking for something and what you are hearing is not what you want, this phrase always jolts the person on the other end out of autopilot. Sometimes folks are just going through the motions, following a standard protocol which might not fit your need. Start with the “I’m grateful” phrase and then move to this one, followed by, “What would it take to (insert your desire)?
Here’s an example: “First of all, Ann, let me tell you how grateful I am that you are willing to help me with my request, I appreciate your time and energy. I hear what you’ve just described as the best way forward, but I’d like to know what other options are available. For example, what would it take to get my money back since I wasn’t able to participate?”
This is exactly how I got my money back on a prepaid tour during a cruise that I canceled because my neck had a crick that would not go away — no joke! These words work because you come from a place of appreciation and then you are facilitating the outcome you desire.
Wouldn’t it be nice if…
This is one of my all-time favorite phrases which almost always brings results. In fact, my family has observed how effective this phrase is for me that they now incorporate it into their daily language as well. There are two ways I experience this language creating a positive shift in my life. The first is that it suggests a scenario that the listener can choose to buy into. For example, if hubby and I are at a restaurant where the menu clear reads “No substitutes” when the waiter comes to take our order I can say, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I could have the mixed fruit instead of the bagel?” At which point, nine times out of ten, the server will say, “That’s no problem. I can take care of that for you.” To which you can reply with phrase number one, “Thank you, I’m so grateful!”
The second way this works is what I call universal magic. A couple of years ago I was attending a business conference and joined a new acquaintance for Sunday breakfast. As we were chatting while waiting to be served, I said, “Wouldn’t it be nice if we had mimosas? I always drink a mimosa with Sunday breakfast at home!” Within five minutes, the server brought us both a mimosa saying that it came with our breakfast! Actually, I think he overheard us talking because I did not see that freebie option on the menu!
The key to getting what you want is to come from a place of gratitude and appreciation for what you already have. The rest is merely the facilitation of desires which, more often than not, can and will be easily fulfilled if that’s the energy you are projecting to the world.