From the series: Life on Dog Hill
A few weeks ago, I posted the first 20 of 95 questions posed by Marc and Angel Hack Life, a blog written by a couple who inspires their readers to reflect on the meaning of life. The recent posting 95 Question to Help you Find Meaning and Happiness not only made me reflect, it gave me the brilliant (yes, brilliant!) idea of interviewing myself so that my children could come to know me more deeply.
As you read through my next 20 responses, I hope you will think about how you would answer the questions. More importantly, do you think your answers would be recognized by the people who you love most? If not, this is a great opportunity to share!
Onward now to the next 20 questions… Kids, listen up! There will be a test at the end!
1. What are you most grateful for?
Without a doubt, I am most grateful for my husband and children.
Message to my kids: The most powerful form of emotion is gratitude. Revel in it!
2. What is worth the pain?
The trials and tribulations of having a husband and seven children!
Message to my kids: I would have asked the question this way: What is worth the effort? Effort need not be painful — challenging, but not painful!
3. In order of importance, how would you rank: happiness, money, love, health, fame?
Health, happiness, love, money, fame. (Might explain why no one knows me!)
Message to my kids: Without health, all the rest is jeopardized.
4. What is something you’ve always wanted, but don’t yet have?
Financial independence. Since I have health, happiness and love, that’s what I’m working on next. LOL!
Message to my kids: If you pursue money first, that may be all you end up with...
5. What was the most defining moment in your life during this past year?
Wow, that’s a deep question… most defining moment… I guess hosting my book launch party because that was the first time that I’ve publicly presented myself as an author. Being an introvert, I really put myself out there and am proud of myself for having done so.
Message to my kids: It’s good to push yourself outside of your comfort zones every once in a while. This is one of the few times when “scary” has the potential to be good for you!
6. What’s the number one change you need to make in your life in the next twelve months?
I want to be more disciplined about writing so that I do it everyday and not just in inspirational spurts.
Message to my kids: Short term goals lead to long term results!
7. What’s the number one thing you want to achieve in the next five years?
See #9 above. Hubby is waiting to retire off of my success, so I better get my butt in gear!
Message to my kids: Dream big and then connect to your future. It’s a very powerful technique for directing your life course.
8. What is the biggest motivator in your life right now?
The future is my biggest motivator! I look forward to what each day brings and I truly believe that life can be whatever I make it. If I can dream it, I can create it! That’s pretty darn motivating!
Message to my kids: When you know what motivates you most, you will have discovered the secret tool for your personal and business success!
9. What will you never do?
I will never say that I will never do something! Oops, I just did… burned again!
Message to my kids: The future is always unpredictable. Sometimes, so are we.
10. What’s something you said you’d never do, but have since done?
Allow myself to be financially dependent on a man. I would never have put myself in this position if I did not have the utmost trust and love for the man in my life.
Message to my kids: When you have a relationship built on love, trust and good communications you may find yourself taking chances you never dreamed possible!
11. What’s something new you recently learned about yourself?
I’m an entertaining, thrilling, suspense-building fiction writer!
Message to my kids: Something so simple as an adjective or three can make all the difference in the world!
12. What do you sometimes pretend to understand that you really do not?
Just about everything. You know, perception is reality!
Message to my kids: Perception is the outside reality. It’s what you know about yourself that truly matters.
13. In one sentence, what do you wish for your future self?
I want to be so intricately connected to the chi of the universe that I can easily manifest my heart’s desire.
Message to my kids: Don’t limit yourself with sound bites or 160 characters; except when they fit within the remit of “Message to my kids.”
14. What worries you most about the future?
Knowing that our children will inevitably face trails and tribulations that may cause them great pain.
Message to my kids: No one says it better than Kahlil Gibran: “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
15. When you look into the past, what do you miss most?
My paternal grandparents and the 40 acre farm that they lived on for so long. Just last night I dreamed I was back in the kitchen of that old farmhouse and it felt so warm and secure. I’ll always love you Mama Gladys and Gramps!
Message to my kids: The lesson in this question is not about looking backwards but about knowing what has made you happy so that you can create more of it in your future. Let’s all meet in the kitchen and talk about it!
16. What’s something from the past that you don’t miss at all?
The pain of a deteriorating marriage.
Message to my kids: The phoenix rises from it’s own ashes.
17. What recently reminded you of how fast time flies?
Just a couple of days ago, my favorite paternal aunt told me she was 82 years old. What? How the heck did THAT happen?
Message to my kids: Make every day count! When you lay your head down each night, think of at least a couple of things that made the day special!
18. What is the biggest challenge you face right now?
Me. I always manage to get in my own way.
Message to my kids: You are only limited by your own beliefs of what you can accomplish!
19. In one word, how would you describe your personality?
Message to my kids: It’s more important for me to know how you would describe me. That’s how I’ll know if I’m living authentically!
20. What never fails to frustrate you?
The propagation of institutional thought such as religion and politics… this is right, this is wrong. Such a sad use of influence when you imagine how much more aligned we could be if the accepted thought was, “There is more than one road that leads to the same destination.” Let’s just find a common destination!
Message to my kids: What you believe does NOT have to fit neatly into the prescribed description of ANY institution. Follow your heart, be kind to yourself and others and you’ll be just fine.
Whew! With 40 questions down and 45 more to go, this may take awhile. I hope you’ll stay the course with me and check back in a week or two for the next 20 questions.
Until then, what are you most grateful for? And, yes, I hope you revel in it!