With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, thoughts may veer toward personal relationships. I’d like to suggest you think of a different kind of relationship — your work.
More specifically, are you happy in it?
On a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being the thought of going to work makes you sick and 10 being that you could work 24/7, where would you place yourself when you think about your job?
If you’re not near the top of the scale (7 – 10), you need to seriously reconsider this relationship. Something isn’t right.
Breaking Up is Hard to Do
Whether you are considering ending a relationship or ending a job, it’s never easy to let go. There’s always that lingering question of, What if I have regrets?
To move past this fear, focus on the feelings at hand. Specifically, pay attention to the feeling in your gut — that’s your intuition guiding you. If deep down you feel like this is the wrong place for you to be, guess what? That’s the wrong place for you!
As Oprah Winfrey once said,
Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.
Are you using the power of instinct and choice to follow a career path that makes you feel good? If not, what’s keeping you there? What step can you take right now to move toward a better career relationship?
Knowing what you want and why you want it are the most critical questions to ask when it comes to the power of choice, especially if the choosing feels challenging. Once you’ve considered those questions, turn inward and ask yourself what feels most right for you. Believe in your ability to know yourself better than anyone else can. Leverage your choice.
If you decide to stay where you are in spite of being unhappy, be willing to advocate for yourself when it comes to needs. To make any relationship work, whether personal or career, there has to be a willingness to give and take. Negotiate.
Remember, wants are negotiable, needs are not. If your management cannot give you what you need, it’s time to take a deep breath and look for the best way to move on.
Sheila Callaham is a communications professional with specialized knowledge in joint military services, government public affairs, event planning and execution, speaking, social media management, and internal/external communications. She believes that achieving one’s goals is firmly rooted in authenticity – listening to what lies deep within and then finding the courage to follow that voice wherever it may lead. Sheila has a Master of Arts in International Studies from Old Dominion University and a Bachelor of Science in Government and Politics from the University of Maryland, Europe. She holds certificates in Management, Organizational Development, and Coaching. Connect with Sheila on your favorite social media platform.