During my last couple of years in corporate America, I just couldn’t get past this feeling of stuckness. No matter how many new and exciting projects I threw myself into or how many mantras I repeated every day, the stuck feeling remained.
It wasn’t until I began working with a life coach who asked me some very powerful questions that I found my way out of the rut. Questions that required me to deeply reflect and determine what I really wanted in my life, why I wanted it and how I would feel when I had it. This exercise may sound simple on the surface, but when facilitated by a professional coach who knows how and when to “drill down” into your complex belief system, it can be unbelievably life changing.
What I learned from the process is that more than one of my needs were not being met. Note that I didn’t say more than one of my wants; rather, my needs. There is a huge difference between needs and wants. Needs are not negotiable. When your needs are not being met, your psyche knows it and your subconscious mind pushes for the shift you need to create the environment you desire.
Feeling stuck is an excellent sign that you might benefit from working with a coach. When looking for a coach, keep in mind that there are many different kinds to choose from, i.e., leadership coaches, relationship coaches (both work and personal), spiritual coaches, success coaches. Once you narrow down the kind of coach you want, go to several different coaching websites to get a feel for what you can expect. Look for the coaches who offer a complementary session. Those are the ones who understand that a successful coaching relationship needs to feel comfortable on both sides.
Here are three GREAT reasons to sign up for a complementary coaching session:
1. You can experience the coaches style and determine if it’s suited for you.
2. You can learn a lot about yourself in just twenty or thirty minutes so even if you decide not to go back to that coach there are nuggets you can take away.
3. Best of all, there’s no commitment! Everything to gain, nothing to lose!
Remember, a coach will push you — that’s their job. He or she may even make you feel a little uncomfortable. A good coach will point out where he/she sees you tripping yourself up, so you must be willing to receive feedback knowing that it is given with positive intent. Finally, you must do the work to successfully create the change you want to see. A coach will guide you, keep you focused on the goal, hold you accountable, and help you celebrate your wins. In the end, however, what you get out of the experience will be totally up to you.
Sheila Callaham is an author, motivational speaker and certified success coach. Sign up to receive a complimentary 30-minute coaching session that will blow you away (figuratively speaking, of course)!
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